Author: Teresa

Grieving the “Little Deaths” in Our Lives

The year was 2011, and I was finally in a good job and on a solid career path. My boss was amazing, and my team was tight-knit. With less stress on my shoulders, my mood swings lessened and were further apart. Life was good. Then, the headlines hit the newspapers: “Hedge fund starts proxy fight at Fortune 1000 company.” Within two months, the fight was in full force: the CEO resigned, the leader of my business unit was fired, and my group was sold to a new company. Everything I loved about my work life was changing, and I...

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Using Mindfulness to Overcome Numbness

“All I feel is numb,” complained Jane. “You keep talking about how you feel when things happen, and I can’t relate. What do you do if you don’t have emotions or are numb to them?” My heart grieves for people like Jane. When we are numb to our emotions, we lose control of our environment and feel disconnected from those around us. Getting back in touch with our emotions helps us accelerate our return to mental health. Mindfulness is the key to uncovering and rediscovering our emotions.     Numbness is a sign that we feel too much Why...

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Meditation As Part of a Self-Care Plan

Meditation. It’s one of those words that brings up instant reactions for most people. For many, it brings with it a sense of spacey-sounding music and chanting. For others, there is an association with religion — particularly Taoist and “Eastern” philosophies. And for others, it’s something they’ve heard can be helpful but don’t know much about. What Meditation Is (and Isn’t) In reality, meditation is simply the practice of being still. It is not about emptying our minds but managing our thoughts or focusing on an idea. When we meditate, we separate our identity from our thoughts, giving us...

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The 411 on Coping Strategies

We hear a lot about coping strategies, and it’s not always clear what the term means. Eating better? Exercise? How are “coping strategies” different from “daily self-care?” Do we use them differently? All good questions. Let’s dive in, shall we?  Learning how to manage stress and stressors is a key component of our self-care and recovery plans. “It  feels like there’s something new, every week. First, it was Hurricane Harvey. Then Hurricanes Irma and Maria. Then the Las Vegas shooting. And now, it’s the fires!” This is the note my support group started on this week: a recounting of...

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Positive Coping Strategies

As we discussed in an earlier post on this topic, positive coping strategies help us handle the the bumps and bruises life sends us. For some of us, using positive strategies doesn’t come naturally. Maybe we’ve tried before, with mixed results. We may even be afraid to change the way we respond to situations, because it could have impacts that we are not prepared to handle. Fears of Changing the Strategy There are a few fears that come up when I discuss positive coping strategies with my groups. Two common ones are that the new skill might not work...

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